Sa Vanisa Opens Up About Wild Partying Every Night, Obsessive Weight Loss, and Hospital Stay for Perforated Stomach

Sa Vanisa shares her personal experience with heavy partying every night, obsessive weight loss, and ultimately ending up hospitalized with a perforated stomach. She deserves recognition as another strong woman of the nation. Many already know that Sa Vanisa raises her son "Say Day," who has autism. So how old is Say Day now? Say Day: I'm 20 now and studying at Sripat University, in my second year. Sa: He's had his heart set on becoming a programmer since childhood, and he's never wavered from that goal. Say Day: I've been around games my whole life, and I want to create my own games. Most of what I create now is what the university assigns me to do—mostly games that require fast mouse clicking or action games. What's your parenting approach like? Sa: Every parent's approach is different, depending on their family background. I didn't come from Say Day's generation, but from my mother's era, which was very strict. But I didn't raise my son the same way I was raised. When it comes to Say Day, I worry a lot. The transition from high school to university is a big change—new environment, new friend groups, and he has to adapt. In high school, Say Day had maybe one real friend he could really talk to. University society is completely different from high school. At university, he has to take care of himself, do group projects, talk with classmates. I worried whether his friends would understand him. I just prayed they would. Say Day: I might not have many friends—maybe five or six—but when I came to university, I didn't have to adapt that hard. It's not all familiar, but when I meet people, I start to understand them. Sa: Now his grandmother takes him to the BTS station, and he takes the train to school. At first I was worried because I used to teach him and go with him on the train. Say Day: I come home on time. If I don't have plans with friends, but if I do, I let her know. Your mom mentioned Say Day's type is kind-hearted women? Say Day: I don't know yet. I'd have to meet someone first to know. But I haven't met anyone yet. Sa: That means he hasn't met anyone more beautiful than his mother. Say Day: Maybe. How is Say Day's autism doing lately? Sa: His doctor says he's improved. He interacts more, and when he talks or answers the doctor's questions, he's much clearer. He still takes medication, which helps with his focus and improves his learning. Going back to the time when we were stressed—sometimes I had meltdowns. How did that go? Sa: I also had depression, but it was manageable depression that I could adapt to without medication. I saw a doctor only once, and he advised that if I take medication, I need to follow the steps properly. If I could do it, it would be good—natural healing that would let me control my emotions. Because I felt that taking medication would have quite a lot of side effects. So the method I chose was to leave that situation first, then calm myself down. I'd count 1-2-3 or whatever, listen to music, or find something I love. The doctor said if I felt symptoms, I should leave and find something I enjoy. At that time, I'd do crochet, focusing all my attention on the crochet. After a while, that emotion would naturally disappear on its own. Now the house is full of crocheted dolls. I've come to understand my own emotions. Sa said it was a short period for both of us. Everything was adjustable, so it was okay. Did Say Day ever see his mother having a meltdown? Say Day: (nods) I'm not sure if there was something flying. I heard a "bang" sound, but I didn't really hear mom screaming. Sa: It was closing the door. The wind closed it. And one thing that bothers me is that my son doesn't let me hug him much? Sa: Rarely. He doesn't really hug me the way he does with his grandmother.