James Rueangsakdi Opens Up About Marriage Struggles, Shares Lessons From Wife's Miscarriage and Infertility Journey
Actor James Rueangsakdi shares how he and his wife overcame infertility and miscarriage, emphasizing that physical strength doesn't guarantee conception and that present parenting became key to their relationship's healing.
James Rueangsakdi opens up about his marriage and family struggles, sharing lessons from infertility and his wife's miscarriage. Few would expect that James and his wife carefully planned every detail of their family life before marriage, revealing intimate details on the show "MY DADDY James." He recounts their over-one-year struggle with infertility, with the most difficult moment being his wife's first miscarriage. He warns men that physical strength doesn't equate to easy conception, emphasizing the crucial philosophy of being a "truly present father"—valuing children's time above anything else. This principle became their relationship's foundation, helping the entire family grow together steadily.
Reflecting on their infertility struggles, James and his wife, like many couples, initially believed that as a strong athlete and an attractive woman, having children would be natural. However, after six months and then a year of trying naturally without success, they grew discouraged. When James married at 39 and his wife was in her early thirties, one year of trying proved unsuccessful. They didn't just fail to conceive; the emotional toll became overwhelming. His wife experienced deep feelings of worthlessness and despair, questioning why she couldn't be a mother while watching others her age succeed effortlessly. At that time, she wasn't yet "Khru Goy, Baby and Mom" with knowledge about infertility, so she blamed herself, withdrew, and spiraled into depression. There were nights so dark he remembers them vividly—when she didn't conceive and continued not to get pregnant, sometimes even delirious, questioning why this happened to her.
They eventually tried both natural methods and scientific approaches. Initially, they began with basic steps: consulting a doctor who advised tracking ovulation cycles, attempting natural conception, then progressing to IUI (Intrauterine Insemination), where doctors combine sperm and eggs through a simple procedure before inserting them into the woman's reproductive system. Despite trying this method, it didn't progress. The atmosphere in their marriage became increasingly dark and depressing. The worst moment came when Khru Goy had her first miscarriage. James remembers receiving her phone call as she sobbed uncontrollably. Scientifically, this was natural selection—nature eliminating imperfect embryos, completely normal. But lacking this knowledge, she blamed herself. After the miscarriage, James privately wondered if perhaps she was already fine, and maybe the problem lay with him. The marital atmosphere filled only with despair. As a man, he tried to comfort her, suggesting they could be happy with just the two of them. This became a turning point in their lives. Khru Goy rose from her despair, researching infertility, consulting doctors, attending seminars about fertility and reproductive systems, ultimately transforming her pain into knowledge and eventually becoming an educator herself.
